10 Rules to keep Your Marriage HAPPY!!

If you are anything like me and maybe you should be grateful your not after reading this Marriage is a STRUGGLE and that is an understatement for me.  And I believe one of my posts was I Heart Marriage.  And I do but the irony is I really suck at it. Kyle is truly a much better marriage partner than I.  He really is simple. I truly have insecurities from my youth that have trickled over to my Adult family and it has been very difficult to overcome.  But because I have a therapy sense about me I was searching for something to help me to be successful and happy in our Marriage and I found the following:

1. Never bring up mistakes of the past.
Stop criticizing others or it will come back on you. If you forgive others, you will be forgiven(Luke 6:37)

2. Neglect the whole world rather than each other.
And how do you benefit if you gain the whole world but lose your own soul in the process?(Mark 8:36)

3. Never go to sleep with an argument unsettled.
And don't sin by letting anger gain control over you.  Don't let the sun go down while you are still angry (Ephesians 4: 26)

4. At least once a day, try to say something complimentary to your spouse.
Gentle words bring life and health; a deceitful tongue crushes the spirit (Proverbs 15:4)

5. Never meet without an affectionate welcome.
Kiss me again and again, your love is sweeter than wine (Song of Solomon 1:2)

6. "For richer or poorer"-rejoice in every moment that God has given you together.
A bowl of soup with someone you love is better than steak with someone you hate (Proverbs 15:17)

7. If you have a choice between making yourself or your mate look good, choose your mate.
Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it's in your power to help them (Proverbs 3:27)

8. If they're breathing, your mate will eventually offend you.  Learn to forgive. I am warning you, if another believer sins, rebuke him; then if he repents, forgive him. Even if he wrongs you seven times a day and each time turns again and asks forgiveness, forgive him (Luke 17: 3,4)

9. Don't use faith, the Bible, or God as a hammer.
God did not send His Son into the world to condemn it, but to save it (John 3:17)

10.  Let love be your guidepost
Love is patient and kind.  Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude.  Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable and it keeps no record of when it has been wronged. (1 Cor. 13:4,5)

Okay so let me share with you one of my dilemas.  I was told once that we will be held accountable for the knowledge that we receive in this life.  We will have to answer to our Maker for the things that we know especially if we have a faith.  We will be held accountable for that knowledge as well.  My akeles heel is always seeking new ways to better my life or to even understand my life.  I now have 10 things, scripturally, that I can read everyday to help remind me of what kind of person I want to be to my spouse.  I am sure I will be slow to action but the thought is planted.  But overall I am really grateful I found this.  And that's all I am going to say. So my goal today is to show forth more LOVE!!!