Women's Roles

I have had a great day. I have celebrated my "sweet 16" birthday with Kylee and I have also enjoyed great conversation. During this great conversation one of my favorite topics came up, 'Women's Roles". So what is a woman's role. Due to the nature of the relationship I will not post or write about the conversation I had with my friends (husband & wife) but I will write about an interesting philosophy that their 13 year old daughter thought was a woman's role. The husband swears he had nothing to do with her thought process...LOL.. but us women know that all men have a little influence on our children, whether it be directly or indirectly. ;)

So I asked my little friend. Her response was that "women should cook and clean and take care of the babies." Now the husband did warn her that I may not agree with what she had to say. But in all reality I already knew what her response would be.

I followed up with my own philosophy and when I shared my philosophy my brain wouldn't shut off. So this is why I am sitting here writing because maybe if I write it my brain will shut off and I can share my opinion and go back to enjoying my day.

I do agree with the little girl. A women's job for the most part is to take care of the family needs in the home. Whether that be cooking, nurturing children, keeping a warm, clean home. But for any young girl (not specific to this young lady) to think that is all we are here for is slightly narrow minded.

My disclosure: Sadie's Philosophy & Opinion ONLY....
I believe women are women for a reason. I believe when God made "strength" it was because he made a woman. God knew the challenges women would face in this life time. God made us with strength but yet gave us so many qualities like mercy, forgiveness, love, kindness, endurance, peace, softness, etc. Yet he made us strong that we are capable of sharp tongues, vengeance, redemption, selfishness, hate, anger etc.

But God knew that women would need this strength in order to endure to the end. And I am not talking about physical strength. I am talking about Mental strength. Women have the capability of truly balancing life.

Women have to be this way or this life would be no fun for men. Some women have this part figured out in life. Some women need to be empowered by other women to understand the "strong" inside them. Although, I do have a fine line of defiance and feminism with women. I don't believe a woman should be without a man nor a man without a woman. But I do get that women get hurt, abused, tormented by men. I believe men can just be stupid but that's not our fault.

But in teaching our young girls I think the only way to teach our young girls about being a women's role is to include them in our role. Make them clean house, cook dinner, wash toilets, grocery shop, balance budgets etc. They need to know that this is not for the weary or faint of heart. And being a Latter-Day Saint woman you must learn to know who you are. It's easy to say you "know" what a women's role is and think you can handle it. But if you are like me, after being married one week, it is NOT what I wanted to be. I hated the idea of being that woman. I didn't want to be confined to my home and be the little mommy. It was a hard transition for me and thankfully my husband was patient with me. And trust me it didn't go without a fight.

This woman's role thing is a constant debate between women, between men and even within ourselves. In the end for me it is about being true to yourself. I am a worker. I always have been. I always will be. I don't enjoy the bedtime stories with the kids, I just want them to go to bed. I don't enjoy cooking every night, I don't enjoy cleaning the house, so I hire a housekeeper once a week. I have learned what I like and what I don't like.

So the bottom-line in my opinion is to be true to you. Define yourself by you. These last days are so up in the air. You always hope for the ideal & hope not to be disappointed by reality. But the reality is to be the woman God made you. Be strong, Be loving, Be Gently, Be Patient, Be Prayerful & simply be YOU.